Mood swings in longer discussions.....
When a longer discussion is ongoing, there are times when confidence level becomes very high and at that time one of the partners says something which is not justified in the current situation. This is because of over confidence generated during the process. Actually speaking, intentions remain clear, but meanings differ and that causes a wrong impression in the minds of the other partner. This also depends on the human behavior of the person to some extent. The moment you think that I have to keep my partner happy, problem ceases to exist. You never see any problem. when issues are raised, you look for solutions rather then showing discomfort. Having this mind frame is not easy, it
is very difficult for anyone to keep thinking about happiness of the other person. People say they are able to do it, but not able to sustain the same behavior for a longer duration. The self can not hide itself behind walls for a longer period of time. When self starts playing its role then meanings change. what is being said and what is being interpreted suddenly changes. Mood swings and at the end there is only one winner: self. so now the question is how to kill this self bug? bottom line is "you can not kill the self bug". You can only hide it as long as you want. So, how to keep the self behind bars for a longer duration? I am able to identify some parameters which can keep on increasing the jurisdiction period of self. These are Faith, Trust, soft spoken, acceptance, believe, respect, truth & moral values. If someone can keep a guard on these parameters in any situation then self can not malign the intentions. when in doubt:
check Faith and say.....Do I have 100% faith?
check Trust and say.....Do I have 100% trust?
check that are u still soft spoken?
check acceptance and say.....Do I have 100% Acceptance?
check belief and say.....Do I still believe 100%?
check respect and say.....Do I still have 100% respect?
check truth and say.....Do I still see 100% truth?
check moral and say.....Do I still see moral values in place?
when any parameter does not meet 100% criteria then take a pause...think again.....and you will realize that something is wrong & you can correct yourself at that point.
Wow!!! cool.....I never thought I can write such stuffs.....I hope this will help me in my future conversations.
is very difficult for anyone to keep thinking about happiness of the other person. People say they are able to do it, but not able to sustain the same behavior for a longer duration. The self can not hide itself behind walls for a longer period of time. When self starts playing its role then meanings change. what is being said and what is being interpreted suddenly changes. Mood swings and at the end there is only one winner: self. so now the question is how to kill this self bug? bottom line is "you can not kill the self bug". You can only hide it as long as you want. So, how to keep the self behind bars for a longer duration? I am able to identify some parameters which can keep on increasing the jurisdiction period of self. These are Faith, Trust, soft spoken, acceptance, believe, respect, truth & moral values. If someone can keep a guard on these parameters in any situation then self can not malign the intentions. when in doubt:
check Faith and say.....Do I have 100% faith?
check Trust and say.....Do I have 100% trust?
check that are u still soft spoken?
check acceptance and say.....Do I have 100% Acceptance?
check belief and say.....Do I still believe 100%?
check respect and say.....Do I still have 100% respect?
check truth and say.....Do I still see 100% truth?
check moral and say.....Do I still see moral values in place?
when any parameter does not meet 100% criteria then take a pause...think again.....and you will realize that something is wrong & you can correct yourself at that point.
Wow!!! cool.....I never thought I can write such stuffs.....I hope this will help me in my future conversations.
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